If that horribly phone conversation hadn't been enough it was brought to the oldest daughter's attention that the husband had been contacting his wife's first husband's family members to “reminisce” about the good old days. The good old days meaning the days when they hadn't made the best choices. To talk about things that young people all do but don't ever talk about again when they are older because they were embarrassed by their younger self's actions. Those are the times he wanted to talk about. He wanted to highlight a time when his deceased wife was not the best form of herself and had not made the best choices in life.

Who does that? Who wants to talk about their wife like that? Who wants to leave that memory of their wife in someone's head? A person who no longer cared that's who. A person with no sense of right and wrong, that's who. This action fell directly in line with the other actions of this man. Nothing surprised them anymore. The family member that he’d called was not happy about their topic of conversation. They found it in poor taste and made the decision to not talk to him again, but wanted the daughters to know what the husband was doing with his free time.

It was beginning to seem like his actions were growing concerning to many because it was almost every other day that someone was coming to the woman's children with stories of what the husband was saying or doing that just seemed wrong in their eyes. It was shocking to these people because this was all coming from a person they hadn't known him to be, one opposite of what he was portraying himself as in real life and on social media.

Yet another holiday was here, it was Mother's Day, the first one since their mother passed away. It was a hard day to get through. The youngest daughter cried all day and didn't get out of bed, the oldest daughter took it a little better for her own daughter's sake. The son took it pretty hard as well. He decided he needed to go see his mother in her resting place. He was hoping to go spend some time with her alone and just be.

That was not to be, as soon as he pulled up to the cemetery he saw the husband there. He'd already heard about the phone conversation with his sister and wasn't too happy with the man, but he'd promised his mom he'd take care of the man and it was Mother's Day so he was going to let it all go.

He walked up to where his mother now rested and said hello to the husband. He hadn't even been able to put down the flowers he brought his mom before the husband started in on him about money. He asked the son if he ever got the money from the sell of their mom's fathers house. He said he still thought that it was not right that he as the husband was left out of getting any money. 

The son immediately got upset. That wasn't what he wanted to hear on a day like this. He couldn't handle that today. He just wanted to go visit his mom and talk to her, but this man was not letting him. All he wanted to do was talk about money and put the youngest daughter down. The husband blamed the daughter for everything that was going wrong in his life. Everything was her fault and nothing was his fault. He blamed her for all the distance between himself and the family. He said she was poisoning everyone against him. Crazy thing was, he out of the two of them was the only one saying anything negative. It was he who couldn't have a conversation without bringing up the youngest daughter.

The son not wanting to hear anymore nonsense told the husband to stop talking. He told him that he didn't want to hear anymore about anything, that he was there to visit his mom and that was all. The husband said okay and stayed quiet for a few minutes before deciding to again bring up money. He told the son that it was unfair that he hadn't gotten a single penny from the house sell and that he called their grandmother and let her know it wasn't okay with him. He said he told the grandmother that she needed to do the right thing and give him his fair share of the money from her portion. That was all it took for the son, he'd had enough. This man had ruined his time with his mother and he didn't seem to give a damn. Today was not the day to talk about any of that, but here he was. The man had no shame and didn't care that the son had tears in his eyes as he was trying to be with his mother on the first Mother's Day without her. He shook his head and walked away. He could no longer stay there and listen to the crap that was coming out of the man's mouth. He was done. This man had yet again found a way to hurt his wife's kid.

After the son called his sisters and let them know what happened the oldest daughter took it upon herself to reach out to her grandmother and let her know a little of what this man had done to their family. She told her that under no circumstance should she let him make her feel bad and give that man any money. He didn't deserve anything more from any of them. The grandmother agreed with her and promised not to give him anything. Why should she? He was asking for money from her and he'd yet to give her the article of clothing she'd asked of her daughter's. His wife's own mother too was on the list of people the husband refused to give anything to so they could look at and remember her by.

Days passed and the daughter's were doing what they could to stay far away from the husband. His negativity was no longer welcomed in their lives. One night as the youngest daughter was scrolling through her Facebook page she came upon a post wishing someone a happy birthday from her mom's account. It brought chills seeing a post supposedly from her mother months after her passing. It was both shocking and hurtful to see her name show up out of the blue. There was no reason anyone should be posting from her deceased mom's Facebook account, not even the husband.

She decided it was too cruel and didn't want her brother or sister to feel the same sadness and shock she had so she decided she had to say something so he would realize it was wrong and erase the comment. That wasn't how things turned out. She asked the husband to stop posting from her mother's account and not to be an insensitive jerk to which he responded that she was an ugly hateful person that her mother had warned him about and that she would have to answer to god.

Never in her wildest dreams would the daughter have expected him to try and tarnish her memories of her mother with thoughts that she talked down on her and warned against her. Who does that? Someone who doesn't have children that’s who, because someone with a heart and a child of their own would never hurt a mother/daughter father/son relationship.

The man's next step to show that he could do what he wanted and that he was in charge was to stick it once again to the daughter so he created a second page with the mothers name and picture and requested to be friends with all her family members. Only an ugly black hearten person would do such a thing just to prove he could.

It would later be explained by the husband that it was not him that made the insensitive move of creating a page pretending to be his deceased wife that his phone had been hacked and someone else did it. The someone else he referred to was the youngest daughter. He was now telling people who called him out for doing it that it was not him but the youngest daughter to try and frame him. The lies this man continued to spew were insane. He really expected people to believe that she had hacked into his phone and then decided to make a Facebook page for her mother all to frame him. Frame him for what exactly? Keep in mind, you do not have to hack a phone to create a new Facebook page. It seriously made no sense and the fact that the man expected everyone to believe it showed he had lost his mind.

The daughter probably wouldn't have even known what he'd done had she not gotten multiple messages from family asking what was going on and if she knew that her mother had a new page and was requesting people. Many were disgusted that the woman they loved was not being left alone to rest in peace. Many said that if it was their own mother this was being done to they’d be angry. The page was taken down almost immediately by multiple people reporting it.

Not two days later it was brought to both daughters attention that the man who claimed to love their mother more than anything had called into work to say he wasn't going to be in because he was out of town. Without saying it, it was implied that he was with his girlfriend, the one he was always with. Hearing that made the daughters blood boil. Not only because he was on vacation with another woman less than six months after his wife had passed away, but because it was so easy for him to miss work to be with that woman when he had always put up a fight and refused to miss work to take his dying wife to her doctors appointments.

It was the daughters who had to rearrange their lives and work schedules to take the mother every single time. It was the youngest daughter's husband that had to get up early and drive the mother to her appointments. They all did it without a fuss because they loved her. Not her own husband though, no never the husband. Work always came first.

Not anymore though, his new 30 year old girlfriend came first now. The one he was now talking about having kids with. His behavior disgusted the entire family. He'd so easily moved on and didn't give his dead wife the proper respect she deserved. He couldn't give her the respect of mourning her a month before moving on.

Moving on was one thing it was another that he had no shame doing it so openly at work with his co workers. It didn't even seem to bother him that he was doing and saying things that would surely get back to the oldest daughter's husband who he worked with. He'd constantly talk about his young girlfriend and how he liked the fact that all her friends ogled him. Boy did he love an audience when he was bragging about himself. Not once during his bragging sessions on how manly he was and how he could get all the ladies did he mention the woman that he claimed was the love of his life. Nope, she was completely forgotten. Their mom was never mentioned or thought about in his real day to day life, but let him get on their joint Facebook page where he could act like a sad grieve stricken husband to her friends and family and he'd shine there too. Meanwhile it was brought to the families attention that he was using a second account to comment on numerous woman's photos telling them how beautiful they were. He must not have been aware that friends and family can see those comments or maybe he didn't care who saw. He'd mastered the double life so well. The fact that he was no longer speaking to his wife's children helped him keep those two lives up without much push back for a long while. But like they say, all things come to light.

If everyone was honest they all knew he'd already moved on, probably even before their mom passed away. They had their gut feelings about the man and there had been so many signs. He wasn't all that good at keeping it a secret, but actually getting the confirmation that it was true was like a punch to the gut. Knowing that everything they thought about the man was true should have been gratifying but it wasn't it was just sad.

That sadness quickly turned into anger for the mom's children. All they wanted was proper respect for their mother.  When the son found out the husband had already moved on from his mom in the short time he was angry that the husband for months went around crying and acting as if he was lonely and hurting all the while he would leave the son's house to spend the nights with his girlfriend. He was angry because for months he put up with the husband's horrific behaviors and even pushed his sisters away because of the things that the husband said about them all because he felt bad at how he thought they were treating him. He let the husband guilt him into being on his side because he thought the man loved and missed his mom more than anything and he wanted to honor the promise he made to his mom all the while the sadness had been an act. Had the son known that the husband had already thrown his mother away for another woman he wouldn't have let the promise he made his mom destroy him both physically and emotionally.

Finally seeing the truth as angry as it made the son also freed him. He was finally able to put that promise away. He'd done everything in his power to honor his promise to his mom and knowing that the husband duped them all for months he knew that there was no way his mom would hold it against him if he no longer felt it was possible to keep the husband in his life. He knew his mother saw that he tried his best and she'd love him anyways. He loved his sisters for allowing him to come to the conclusion in his own time and still being there for him. He hugged them and apologized for pushing them away.

Nothing about that man surprised the youngest daughter. She'd been the first one to see his true colors and knew everyone else would figure it out in their own time and she'd been right. The husband hadn't been able to hide his true colors for long. It only took a few months for everyone to know the truth. He'd hurt them all too many times and finally they were all on the same page and would now be able to stick together without that man getting in the middle of them.

The youngest daughter was tired of all the lies and couldn't help but let herself be petty. For years she had both her mom and the husband's phones on her family cell phone plan and once she found out he without a doubt had moved on without giving her mom the time she deserved she shut off the husbands phone. There was no way that she was going to allow a phone that she was paying for to be used to call some other woman. He would have to get his own phone and pay for it now. And not one ounce of her felt guilty for doing it.

The husband's disgusting actions and the horrific words that came out of his mouth the last times the daughters spoke with him were the exact words that ended their relationships with him. Those words were the words that severed all ties the husband had with both daughters forever. He was never going to be able to say that they tossed their mother to the side like she was nothing ever again. He wasn't going to be able to say their mother warned him about them ever again. He was never going to make them feel guilty about how things were. The mothers children had all put their lives on hold to help take care of her for more than a year and they never complained, they’d do it all again if it meant more time with her.

The one person who always had something negative to say was the husband, but he never saw that. He was perfect in his own eyes. He often used god to justify his actions, to make himself look good. The way he portrayed himself to the outside world was completely different from the way he acted with his wife and his wife’s children. It became too much for them, pretending that he was a good person who only cared about his dying wife wasn't working anymore. They couldn’t pretend any longer.

They couldn't act like he hadn't made their mother cry because she was no longer going to be bringing in any money from her employer, that he hadn't made her apologize for dying and being a burden on her family. The look in her eyes that day the sadness in her heart will forever be seared into their brains and for that reason alone both daughters of hers will never ever be able to forgive him.

He will have to live with everything he's done the last year and a half and realize that he and he alone is the reason they are no longer a family. The sad thing is narcissistic people don't really see the fault in themselves. He will probably until the day he dies think that he is a good god fearing man who is the victim in all this and who was treated horribly by his wife's children. The real truth is this could have all been avoided had he not reverted into the man he was before their beautiful mom changed him into a decent person.

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