Well...

That's our story. I hope it was easy to follow. We wanted to be as honest with you all as we could, but know that there were quite a few details that were left out of this story. They were just too painful to share. It wasn't easy coming out and sharing our story, but with everything that was being brought to our attention it had to be done. To this very day we are still hearing things that are being said and getting pictures that are all too much to handle at times. Stories have come out from quite a few family members that identify with an incident in our story and say they know it to be true because such and such happened in their presence.

We appreciate all the words of encouragement both publicly and privately. We know some of you who read our story think we are in the wrong for putting it all out into the open, but we hope you understand that this is our story to tell. This is our journey to go through. You can all think what you want and have your opinions no matter what they are. We don't fault you, just as you shouldn't fault us for doing what we think is best.

No one knows what we've gone through because this story doesn't do our real everyday life justice. Living it was way worse and we wouldn't wish this on anyone.

If you know our family you know that we are a very private family, always have been, but sometimes being private gives people the opportunity to get away with behaviors and actions that aren't right. Sometimes it comes from the most unlikely of sources. Hearing things almost everyday that are lies became too much. We needed to let everyone know what we truly went through so that you all can understand why we came to the conclusion we did. We can no longer have that man in our lives and we will no longer be guilt into keeping quiet.

Even though the writing has ended our family's story has not. We struggle everyday trying to heal. Now that everything is out in the open the healing has been a little easier. There is no longer any need to hide our true feelings and he no longer feels the need to pretend that he isn't a scumbag. He is now more open about his girlfriend. He has even told family members that we gave him our blessing. That's a lie everyone, never would any of us give our blessing to a man we feel cheated on our dying mother. If we gave our blessings to him, why would he try and hide it from us for as long as he did?

The more we were made aware of the more it made us want to go public with our story. We could no longer keep quiet about a man who was using the death of our mother to get attention. We could no longer stand by and watch this man pretend to be the sad grieving husband who deserved everyone's sympathy all the while he was already in a relationship and probably had been the whole time. It wasn't fair to us and it wasn't fair to all of our mom's family. This man had perfected the act of dropping tears in an instant to make you feel bad for him and the next second was laughing like nothing was wrong.

Writing this story was very therapeutic in a way. Having to relive the last year and a half was hard and many tears were shed. We know that by writing this story and being so open with our family's journey we are pretty much giving up all hope of ever getting any of our mother's belongings. We know that if he gets wind of the story he will not be happy that we made all his past indiscretions public. He never wanted anyone to know the truth about the type of person he is.

It wasn't easy cutting him out of our lives and it's not easy being so vocal about what we think of him now, but after going through all that we have it's all fitting.

If we could have anything to come out of writing this story it would be for him to finally see everything he's done down on paper and for him to realize he hasn't been such a good person and want to apologize for everything he's done to us. We don't even really want an apology though, what we'd like is for him to do the right thing and see that it would be best for him to move away. It's not easy living next door to the man that single offhandedly ruined your family and has no remorse. If he was a good misunderstood person he'd want to do the right thing and move away to start his new life. He's moved on so he should let us move on as well. We'd also like for him to see he's wrong for keeping our mother's belongings from us. We've begged for our mother's stuff for months now and its sad knowing we won't get anything. Coming out with our story pretty much solidified that for us, but even so it was still important for us to do it.

We want you all to have all the information so you can form your own opinions on this man. Never have we wanted anyone to blindly side with us. You all are free to make your own decisions. What we do expect from family is to remember that WE are your family and not once have we ever lied or treated anyone wrongly so please remember that if you are one of the people he decides to confide in and talk poorly about us to. Just shut it down, you are all free to keep him in your life just please don't allow him to speak negatively about us. We don't deserve it.

In conclusion, we just want to thank you for taking the time out of your lives to spend in ours. It means a lot to us to know you feel for our family. We won't take all your love for granted. We are finally going to try to move on. Our job here is done. This part of our journey is over. We love you all.